Photo: Diarama

Peace, Love, Joy, & Veganism,
Carl
My twitter is: carlatteniese

Entry

You drew a bird and you drew a fish
You placed them on my window, and
I left them there, when I moved-in haste

You’re gone now, and this lost was like losing not just the fish, or the bird,
but the window and out it, the entire world

Yet, to have lived without you,
Would have been the greatest waste

Carl Atteniese

Photo: Sun Rivers in Ingye Dong

Peace, Love, Joy, & Veganism,
Cozy Kaaru

My website is: http://carlatteniese.com

My twitter is: carlatteniese

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Love: Young Lovers, Wait….

Dear Friend!

Hi! How are you, right now? 

Congratulations on being in love! It’s wonderful, is it not?

Thank you for being so thoughtful as to share, to seek other opinions, and to not move along unmindfully! This makes the world a more loving place.

In my humble opinion, I defer (I let another learned person speak) to a doctor who once said that ‘the beginning of a relationship  is filled with lust.’ Though physical love is a necessary part of the highest spiritual levels of a mature adult relationship, it isn’t necessary to to rush into having sex. It can also be harmful to the love bond, because it can take over as the main attraction. This is a time when you can get to know one another deeply,  rather than waiting for later, and you can also have wonderful fantasies that prepare and excite you about how you would like your first communion of love to be-with this young man.

But let me say, that doctor I spoke of also points out that the human brain is not adult-mature until twenty-seven. I am not saying anything personal about you, my new, good friend. I am saying that this is true for all humans, and it means you’ll feel differently about some things you may have decided to do, later. 

From a young woman’s point of view, realize that to our society, you are considered too young for sexual relations, and indeed, a man of age who has sex with you is breaking the law. I understand you say your boyfriend is young like you, but are you sure?

Next, as a woman, you must know that sexual lust clouds our judgement. It is hormonal, and thus like a drug. It is wonderful you love each other, and I know you feel that you two want to make love, not merely have sex, but within the love-making, you will be having sex.  And you should know that if a man can wait, it is a great test of his love. I myself am still in love with one who left me, and have not slept with another in a year. In addition, if my heart were repaired by her coming back to me, I wouldn’t try to make love with her. She wants to wait until marriage. I don’t want to brag, but that’s love.

Finally, let me suggest that you wait, because I know you will be much more excitded, later, and happier-if you know you love each other so much that sex wasn’t driving your interest.

Talk to me.

Sincerely wishing you Peace, Love, and, Joy,

Carlo Atteniese
Twitter: carlatteniese
http://carlatteniese.com

Photo: The Hot Blue

Peace, Love, Joy, & Veganism,
Carlo

My website is: http://carlatteniese.com

My twitter is: carlatteniese

Love: You Can Change

Here are the comments I sent to a recent client:

How are you, Wonderful Human Being? I am sorry this is late.

Please do this, as a fist step in helping yourself, and in helping me help you;

1. Please look at the questions on my profile page and answer them for me. This will help you think and feel more, about your situation, and it will give me insight into you and your boyfriend.

2. Please try meditating. It is a very simple method of attaining inner piece, AND answers. It will calm your mind, help you feel and think more clearly, and give you ideas as to what to do or not to do.

3. Don’t worry about your boyfriend being on FB. And if you don’t like his drinking so much, tell him, lovingly, peacefully, and without blame. If he gets abusive, tell him you must take leave of him, go for a walk or see a friend, and tell him you will see him later and not to worry.

4. Be the best person you can be, by changing bad habits of your own. If you have trouble with this, the meditation will help. Meditation brings mindfulness, which helps us see more what we are really doing, moment to moment. It makes us better human beings, since mindfulness keeps us from acting more like the human beings we can be, and less like the animals we are. If the meditation is not enough, try reading some Anthony Robbins, like Release The Giant Within. There are other great book titles on my profile page.

5. Remember that we have all been programed by the negative and positive comments spoken to us by our parents and teachers; guardians and friends-and we have to escape this and realize we are changeable. If we cannot change, we are not human. You can be anything you want (within reason), and are not defined by other peoples’ compliments or derision.

Let me know what you think.

SIncerely wishing you Peace, Love, and Joy,

Carlo Atteniese
http://carlatteniese.com
My twitter is carlatteniese