Letting Go or Burying?

You know what’s potentially ‘wrong’ with Zen Buddhism? It’s the same thing that’s absolutely right with it;

“letting go.”

We must let go of mental formations that obsess us, or distract us when our full attention is needed elsewhere, but sometimes, letting go of something forever, on purpose or by design, can be harmful; that’s burying it.

You don’t need to be well versed in human psychology to realize the lesson in this story…

A man does some remodeling in his living room. He strips the walls of thirty years of paint, spackles them, sands them, and paints them the color his beloved wife had her heart set on. He does this to the ceiling, too, an infinately more difficult job. Then, he draws and makes a stencil of her favorite flower, makes lines on the wall with an H pencil; parallel from floor to ceiling, the right distance apart. This alone takes two days. Then he prepairs the paint, the trays, the rollers, and fine brushes for touch-up work, and for a week, he lays down a pattern of the floral designs, floor to ceiling, row after row.

When he is finally finished, one Sunday, he notices that miraculously, he is in time to retrieve the wife and kids from grandmother’s house in time for ice cream at the mall, after which he will present his labors of love and fatherhood in the house. He makes haste in cleaning up. He does his best, working rapidly to pick up the dust, nails, shims, and other debris that has managed to hide out and litter the room since he began three weeks ago, despite his daily efforts to return the room to some semblance of normalcy after his work each day.

He’s running short of time, so after a perfuntory sweep and bending over here and there to pick up, he throws the rug down thinking it will not only make the room look complete, it will be protection for his childrens’ feet against any material left behind until he can properly vacuum and finish the  job. He lines the rug up with the walls, and then takes a quick look at his handy work, smiles, and breathes a sigh of relief before running out to the car without even washing up. “Let it go”, he hears his wife say in his memory, “you worry to much. It’s good enough for now.”

. . .

After taking the kids to the mall for their favorite deserts, discussing their time at grandmother’s house, and talking about how they have to be careful not to write on the new walls in the living room with crayons or pencils, the family jumps in the car and drives home to see Daddy’s work. The man, it seems as if his car is moving in slow motion. He cannot wait to show his wife.

When the family sees the living room, everyone is excited. Father feels great because his wife is gushing at the professional wirk he’s done, remarking flatteringly about his painting of the flowers. The children say ‘Wow, Daddy made a new house!’, and all just eventually fall into easy chairs and the sofa for some TV time. The man is too tired to lifting the rug to finish cleaning. After a few hours, they all go up to bed.

. . .

A few days later, the man comes into the living room after work and is shocked to see his wife on the couch with her left leg elevated, a bandage round her foot with a  stain of lood on her big toe.

“Honey what…” He never finishes his sentence. Suddenly he finds himself bounding across the room to catch his six-year old son who is falling toward the corner of the reading table, tripping of the rug!

To Be Continued…

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Carl Atteniese / 亜天二恵世万慈道

Thank you for reading. I hope this finds you exceedingly well. I was born in Brooklyn, in the middle of the NASA Gemini space Program era--which was on course for the Apollo program, aiming to land men on the moon. I watched Neil Armstrong make humanity's first step on the lunar surface. The space program left a lasting effect on me and inspired life-long interest and passion in me. I was born a little more than 2 years after President John Kennedy was assassinated and a few years before Dr. Martin Luther King was assassinated. It was a time of tumult, but better manners, a gentler approach to one another (despite the prejudice being worked on by progressives-) little political correctness, no cancel culture and thicker skin & more opportunity for laughs, a time of fantastic television, austere and fact-based news delivered with brevity and sobriety and much superlatively stylish design. It was the beginning of Star Trek, Star Wars, and a few years on, personal computers, digital watches, hand-held electronic games and movies were still in theaters--not on our TVs--unless they were a little old. People paid more attention to books, from where trust is built with credibility we intrinsically see, competency earned and reflected and facts & expertise. One reason I am not apt to dabble in irrational conspiracy theories is I made many a trek to the local library, to read about stars, planets and astronauts, and to the local bookstore--no longer there--to find my favorite science fiction novels--to either read, or simply marvel at their covers, by Boris Valejo and Frank Frazetta--inspirations that would fuel my later entry into the School of Visual Arts in New York City. I grew up in Long Island, worked and was educated there until I discovered New York City, then it was on to Boulder Colorado, The Mojave Desert, South Korea and now Japan. I have visited Mongolia, the Philippines, and England and hope to see the rest of the world--and maybe even beyond it. I teach English as a Second Language, practice secular Buddhism and pay attention to philosophy, astronomy, spaceflight, aviation and human & species rights. I make art, poems and photography--and real friends, wherever I go--when I can. Maybe our paths will cross; until then, enjoy my writing and pictures, and send me a note. Maybe we can have a cup of coffee someday, somewhere. Thank you for reading. I wish you love, peace, joy and enlightenment--sincerely--because you are sentient, and you suffer, too. Carl Atteniese Tokyo

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